Season 2, Episode 3: Rufai Ajala
In this episode Ella touches base with Rufai “Roo” Ajala and explores the world of Intimacy Coordination, Roo’s journey into it and the lessons for our wider culture.
Please note that this conversation explores personal experiences of sexual violence and emotional abuse, as well as the healing journeys of survivors. Below is information in the liner notes about trusted UK organisation's who can support you if you have experienced violence - and please know that you are not alone.
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Rufai at a glance:
Rufai (they/them) has journeyed from troubled beginnings and in an epic journey of self-discovery and healing from trauma, is now a cinematographer and lighting technician and a trained Intimacy Coordinator. They have a passion for safeguarding especially as it pertains to Queer Trans and Non-Binary Gender people of colour.
Show Notes:
The dichotomy of finding joy in your work
Mitigating harm
Making peace with yourself
Bitterness and anger
An unexpected route into the industry – from troubled youth, to industry professional and Intimacy coordination
Healing through the work & support
Safeguarding & vulnerability on set
Mechanics of IC Boundaries –
Belonging to yourself
To kiss or not to kiss – permissions & consents
The 10 step question
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Find Rufai:
http://intimacyconsultancy.com/
https://www.instagram.com/rufaiajala/
https://www.instagram.com/intimacywithroo
Who is Rufai Ajala?
Rufai is a Non-Binary Intimacy Coordinator who started their Intimacy Coordination training with industry leaders Ita O’Brien (Sex Education, I May Destroy You) and Yarit Dor (Atlanta, Bridgerton, The Girlfriend Experience, Adult Material).
Rufai have experience in crafting and safeguarding nuanced Intimate scenes and stories involving Queer Identity and Sexuality, Trans and Non-Binary Gender, Sexual Euphoria and Sexual Traumatic scenes. And as a certified and professional intimacy coordinator, they are ready to advise and support actors in any capacity, in order to help them feel comfortable and safe while filming or depicting any scenes of intimacy.
They co-authored the “Performer Bill of Rights” and “Ethical Guidelines for Guest Directors” with acclaimed Feminist Filmmaker & Director: Erika Lust.
They have extensive knowledge and experience working in sex education, porn literacy and consent practices, which has garnered huge acclaim and awards of their work and contribution from The Toronto International Feminist Film Awards, Canada.
With over 13+ years experience working in the film industry, behind the camera. Having worked in various roles, from production, editing to the lighting and camera department. Their years in the film industry as well as engaging with sensitive and scenes of heightened emotion, has informed their practice, care and working ethics.
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